Tuesday, April 29, 2008

The Tantric Art of Yoni Massage

In Tantra, the vagina is a sacred part of the female body. The word for vagina in Sanskrit is Yoni, which means "sacred space" or "sacred temple." It is to be treated with respect and great care. The Yoni massage is a sensuous form of intimacy that builds trust between partners and brings them closer together emotionally and spiritually.

A person of either sex can perform Yoni massage on a woman, but, for the purpose of simplifying instruction, the receiver will be referred to here as "the woman" and the giver will be referred to as "the man."

Although the Yoni massage can be extremely stimulating, the purpose is not to bring the woman to orgasm. Rather, it is to relax both the giver and receiver and to bring emotions to the surface. Unlike modern sexual activity, there is no pressure to achieve climax. Both partners can focus entirely on relaxation without trying to reach a goal.

To prepare for the massage, the bladder of the receiver should be empty and both partners should bathe. Bathing together is preferred as it is relaxing and gets both parties in a romantic mood. It also helps if the woman's genital area has little or no hair because it makes for closer skin contact. Make sure the atmosphere encourages relaxation by lighting candles, playing soft music and keeping the room warm. Only perform the massage when you have a good deal of time and will not be rushed. Ensure that there is little to no possibility of interruption.

Before beginning the massage, the partners gaze into each other's eyes while embracing. This is a type of Tantric foreplay in which the couple forms an emotional and spiritual bond.

When both parties are ready for the massage, the woman lies on her back with one pillow under her head and another under her hips to elevate her pelvis. She bends her knees and opens her legs to expose her vagina, or Yoni.

The giver sits comfortably between the woman's legs with his legs crossed.

Prior to any physical contact, both partners perform Tantric breathing exercises to achieve total relaxation of the mind and body. There are several possible methods, but the gist of all of them is to breath deeply, slowly and in unison with each other. This deep breathing should continue throughout the entire massage.

The massage begins with other parts of the woman's body to encourage her to relax. The man gently but firmly massages her legs, thighs, stomach, breasts and arms before venturing toward the vagina.

Next, the man applies a lubricant to the outside on the woman's genitals. This can be a warm scented oil, which is particularly pleasurable for Tantric sex as it delights the senses and can be sensuously poured over the Yoni, or a substance such as K-Y Jelly. The lubricant should cover the entire outside of the Yoni.

Each step of the massage should be done slowly, gently and for at least a few minutes at a time. Again, this massage should not be rushed. Both partners should continue to focus on each other's eyes throughout the massage. Any step of the massage that causes discomfort or pain for the woman should be skipped. During the massage, the woman may choose to massage her breasts for further stimulation. Both parties must remain completely relaxed during the entire process. If at any time during the massage the woman has an orgasm, it is her choice whether or not to continue. Many women find that continuing with the massage produces several orgasms, each with increasing intensity. In Tantra, this is called "riding the wave." If the woman wishes to avoid orgasm, breathing deeply and relaxing as much as possible can help to at least postpone climax.

With the right hand (the right hand is used to balance the polarity of Tantra), the man massages the outer lips of the woman's genitals, commonly known as the mound. With his thumb and index finger, the man gently squeezes each lip of the Yoni, sliding his fingers up and down the entire length of each lip. Then, he carefully repeats this process with each inner lip of the vagina. He varies the pressure and speed of his touch according to his partner's preferences.

He then gently strokes the woman's clitoris in a circular motion, clockwise and counter-clockwise. Next, he squeezes the clitoris between his thumb and index finger.

Then, the man inserts his middle finger into the Yoni. Much time is spent inside the vagina exploring and massaging. Varying the speed and depth of his finger, the man feels inside the Yoni up, down and around. With his finger and palm pointing upward inside his partner's vagina, the man bends his finger to make contact with the woman's G-spot, known as the "sacred spot" in Tantra. If his partner wishes, the man can also insert his ring finger into the vagina. Some women enjoy the increased pressure of two fingers. Other options during this step include the man stimulating the woman's clitoris with his thumb and gently inserting his pinky into her anus while his middle finger (and possibly ring finger) remain inside her Yoni.

The massage continues until the woman decides it is time to stop. The couple may choose for other sexual activity to follow. An appropriate choice is the Lingam massage, the male form of the Yoni massage.

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